This is perhaps the hardest thing I have had to learn over the past few years. I am a people pleaser to nth degree and saying no is not something that comes easily to me.
I have gotten better, though I do find it very hard to say no to people I like and care about. It is amazingly easy to say no to things that do not interest me, or to those that I feel just use me (we all have those types in the periphery of our lives).
Another place I have problems saying no is to fabric or yarn that people want to give me..... I always figure I can find a way to use even the smallest scraps of anything. Which of course means the sewing/craft room gets slightly crowded. Must definitely work on that one.
Oh, and books. Books are just wonderful ways to travel to unknow places, or solve a mystery.
There are those things that I have always said no to though, like overspending the budget (it happens once in awhile here), or purchasing something just for the sake of keeping up with the neighbours.
I also find it very easy to say no to people who ask for money on the phone. I used to say please send the information via the mail, but since the vast majority never did, a simple sorry no on the phone works very well.
Saying no to something that does not fit my morals is also easy and always has been since I was a child. Thank heavens as this kept me out of a great deal of trouble growing up.
Saying no can be difficult but it can be done. I am a work in progress on this, and I can see as I learn to say no my life getting so much simpler.
Everybody have a wonderful evening.
God bless.
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