had a friend that you are starting to think just might not be the friend they were in the beginning?
This past week I have started to feel like the person I consider to be my BFF, is not really that at all. While I do go and see her for coffee most days (her Hubby does not let her do much at all), it is like I am being used.
It is hard to explain, but I have noticed over the past months she is more inclined to, well, support others more than she feels it is necessary to support me. This is just a feeling I get when we talk. She is more than willing to take others out for lunch, or invite someone else to go to the show with her, go to another's house for coffee (hasn't come here in years), and even complain about my cat (she has not looked after Shania in years).
While I don't mind so much being a support for her (I actually think her husband is way too controlling) I do hate hearing the same complaints or problems over and over again. Many of these problems are brought on by her family and their choices in life. She has one son that left a very good job because it does not "pay enough" but was steady employment, for another job that has only lasted at the most a month and he will now be laid off and searching for another. In our (rather her) discussion I got the impression I was supposed to feel sorry for him. His choice, his mistake, but I can't bring myself to say this to her... She does hold a grudge and I just don't want to get on her bad side.
I think I might just try drawing back from this friendship for awhile. See how I manage without her in my life and how she manages without me. I have a feeling that I might just get a great deal more done and be minus some stress in my life.
Perhaps it is time to cultivate other friendships and see where they lead.
Everybody have a wonderful evening.